The Content Pillar—A Post for Daughters

Posted By on October 24, 2011

(Note: This is an article I would love to have included in Queen of the Home!)
By Breezy Brookshire

 Contentment is one of the priceless virtues a woman must cultivate. As daughters preparing to be homemakers, we eagerly await the time when we can be in our own homes, and it is crucial to develop contentment right now. Without it, we will stifle our joy and tear down our homes whether we get married or not.

May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace.” —Psalm 144:12 (ESV)

For many daughters, discontentment is a weed we must constantly guard against. “If I could only have more time to myself…” or “Why does this disgusting job always fall to me?” and similar complaints can be frequently heard in our minds. We don’t have to be raised with the princess mindset—we naturally assert our rights and champion the way we think things ought to be; we pout when we don’t get our way. And this attitude will only get worse if we do not address it as soon as it appears.

As a pillar in the home, you carry more weight of influence on our shoulders than you realize. The attitude of “I wish I could be somewhere else, fulfilling my dreams” is a perilous atmosphere for those dwelling inside the palace. If we allow discontentment to creep into our hearts and rot from the inside out, we cast shadows of quarreling, whining, unrest, and gloom on our families, where instead there should be contentment, industry, and joy.

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. —James 4:1-3 (ESV)

These ravenous hearts of discontentment and murder did not suddenly appear, just as the contentious, griping woman of Proverbs did not. They grew out of subtle, slow-simmering attitudes of discontentment that were not dealt with in a God-honoring way.

A content heart trusts in the Lord. It is peaceful, resting in His complete sovereign plan for every detail of one’s life. It finds a fulfilling joy in the special place and situation God has ordained for each season of life.

If you are discontent in your parents’ home, know that having your own home someday will not bring you happiness and contentment. Begin to nurture the priceless virtue of contentment right now. Every situation that arises gives us a choice between complaining or contentment, bemoaning our sacrifice or glorifying God in thankfulness. Reject the impulse of the moment and choose the joy and peace that only Christ gives.

This will be a constant struggle throughout our  lives. But with prayer and relying on the Lord’s strength, He will shape us into the radiant women He desires us to be.

Let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. —1 Peter 3:4 (ESV)

Breezy Brookshire is a 20-year old homeschool graduate and stay-at-home daughter. She has been learning domestic skills from her mother since she was a little girl (she still remembers her first sock-folding lesson) and loves being at home with her family. She also enjoys creating art that glorifies her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Breezy and her sister, Emily Rose, own Noble Rose Press and are the creators of the Daughters of His Story paper doll series, and the Family Treasure Coloring Book. Breezy blogs at A Bowl of Moss and Pebbles. This article originally appeared on Raising Homemakers and is reprinted here with permission.

About The Author

Jennifer McBride is the blessed wife to Steve and the mother of 8 children, ages 13-2. She is also the editor of the book "Queen of the Home" - currently being revised and updated. In her sparest of spare moments she operates, a website dedicated to proclaiming the honor, nobility and power of Biblical womanhood.


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