Posted By Jennifer McBride on November 17, 2013
From Homekeeping Heart:
I inwardly cringe every time I hear the question.
“How many children do you want?”
When did children become something to obtain because we want it? When did they become something to collect or possessions to own? They’ve almost been lowered to the position of pets. I’m thinking it probably happened around the same time they became a “choice”.
The fact is, I couldn’t have a child I didn’t “want”. Even if I said I wanted 2 or 3 or 4, I would want that fifth child very very much if he “accidentally” came along. That is because they aren’t possessions–they’re people. And even more, they’re MY child that I love with a love greater than I ever knew. How can we put a number on them as if their value has anything to do with birth order?
But beyond that, we don’t have them because we “want” them. It’s not about us. They aren’t FOR us. As much as each of my seven children brings me more joy, love, and delight than I ever imagined possible, they don’t exist for my enjoyment.