When did children become something to obtain because we want it? When did they become something to collect or possessions to own? They’ve almost been lowered to the position of pets. I’m thinking it probably happened around the same time they became a “choice”.
The fact is, I couldn’t have a child I didn’t “want”. Even if I said I wanted 2 or 3 or 4, I would want that fifth child very very much if he “accidentally” came along. That is because they aren’t possessions–they’re people. And even more, they’re MY child that I love with a love greater than I ever knew. How can we put a number on them as if their value has anything to do with birth order?
But beyond that, we don’t have them because we “want” them. It’s not about us. They aren’t FOR us. As much as each of my seven children brings me more joy, love, and delight than I ever imagined possible, they don’t exist for my enjoyment.
The strongest women in our world today are those who are as a group feeling the weakest. It certainly doesn’t feel like a blow for the kingdom to spend another nine months in a brain fog. It doesn’t feel like we are fighting for the future of our country as we drive strollers with one elbow so we can hold one fat defiant hand while sloshing coffee on ourselves with the other.
But His strength is made perfect in our weakness. He loves the obedience of the widows mite – the offering of the littlest thing that is our everything. It can seem so petty and uninteresting when what you are putting in the offering box is giving up sleeping in. Or joyfully driving the mini van that you never wanted. Or spending Friday nights folding laundry and picking up board books. But God delights in that, and He delights in us as we obey.
Do we want to spend our time giving little things that delight our Savior, or trying desperately to please the world? The world might be pleased with us if we stood for hours in our stupid sneakers fighting for a woman’s right to kill her children, but they will never applaud us for being inconvenienced and actually carrying those children.
What we are failing to see is that this weakness haunts us so much when we want to rely on our own strength. But this weakness is His to strengthen. This weakness is the greatest offering that we can give – because it is the offering of obedience.
For all my fellow mothers in a season of exhaustion – who feel like they can hardly put one foot in front of the other, who are worn “even before the day begins”, who are even more soul weary than they are physically weary, who are walking through trial while caring for the needs of their families, who are just plain wiped out. Keep fighting the good fight; remember in the midst of the temporal chaos, heartache, crumbs and laundry that we are investing in eternity. Remember we can rest in our faithful God Who never grows tired:
Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, [that] the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? [there is] no searching of his understanding. He giveth power to the faint; and to [them that have] no might he increaseth strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew [their] strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; [and] they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40: 28-31
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Galatians 6:9
Friends, if you are hungry for some eternal perspective in the difficult task of motherhood and homemaking, this is the book for you. It is a treasure trove full of encouragement and vision. With generous quotes and passages from authors both historic and modern, the book powerfully and boldly inspired me to “keep” a home that reflects God’s grace and goodness.
In a generation that has, sadly, swallowed the lies of feminism and dismissed the role of women in the home as outdated and unneeded, Queen of the Homewill remind you of your divine mission: the people that God has called you to serve. The work He has given you to do that will extend to the next generation and beyond.
Even as busy moms who have crumbs that seem to permanently reside in the kitchen chairs, we can still have lovely homes if our hearts are willing. Fresh paint, colorful adornments to the walls or fancy furniture will not be what make it beautiful. Give me some glass with fingerprints, carpet strewn with Legos and a fridge that has seen better days anyday…along with a mama who is filling the rooms with joy, laughter, love and peace knowing she is being faithful to the noble task of mothering her children well. Now that’s a beautiful house.
If you have to “schedule” time on your calendar with each child to make sure you’re fitting everyone in, then please, by all means schedule that time. Make it a priority to spend quality time with each of your children individually. Invest in the lives of your children physically, spiritually, and emotionally. It will pay off in dividends in the long run. There really are so many opportunities you can take advantage of to spend quality time with each of your children. You just have to be willing to make it a priority.
The home is a seminary of infinite importance. It is important because it is universal, and because the education it bestows gives color to the whole texture of life. The things said there give bias to character far more than do sermons, lectures, newspapers, and book. No other teachers have acknowledged the divine right to instruct children that is granted without challenge to parents. The foundation of our national life is in their hands. They can make it send forth waters bitter or sweet, for the death or the healing of the people. The smallest bit of opinion sown in the minds of children in private life later issue forth to the world and become its public opinions, for nations are gathered out of nurseries.~ The Golden Gems of Life
Cold and Flu season is no fun. It seems like everyone is hacking and coughing. I want to wear a hazmat suit when I am out in public to protect myself against the swarm of flu bugs in the air.
If or when the cold and flu catch up to me, I like to use my kitchen as the greatest weapon to combat the plague’s ugliness.
In addition using herbs, tinctures, infusions and oils, I like to use food to kick start and support the body’s natural immune system with foods as well. One way I do this is by cooking cold and flu fighting foods. Top on my list: